Here, the Caring Outreach presents examples of feedback from the powerful pro-life website TeenBreaks.com -
TeenBreaks.com is an interactive website where visitors can submit stories, ask questions, and make comments. The feedback we receive from teens who have changed their minds about abortion is one way we know this strategy is working. Emails received are a powerful testimony to how hearts and minds are being changed through using this Internet strategy.
A female over 23 wrote from Wisconsin
I was just on Facebook defending my pro-life stance when someone said that 16 yr old girls shouldn’t be subject to going through pregnancy and parenthood and abortion is better for both baby and the mother. And the mother would lose opportunities for education and work. Well I have and 8 yr old I gave birth to when I was 15. I am a 24yr old working nurse. His argument was demolished. Then I remembered being a scared 15 yr old girl who just saw 2 pink lines and when trying to find information to end my pregnancy before my parents found out, stumbled across this site. This site saved me from committing murder, and saved my daughter. She’s a gymnast now, is very outgoing, fashionable and loves Sunday school. God does not make mistakes. Keep doing what you do.
Christina / Illinois / Age 17 - My name is Christina, I’m 17 years
old and I had an abortion. When I first found out I was pregnant, I was
only 15. I told my boyfriend, whom I been dating for a year already. He
was 17 at the time and he was soo excited. He wanted this baby and so did
I. I knew if I aborted, my life wouldn’t ever be the same.
Anyway, when it was time to tell my mother I was already 12 weeks pregnant,
and when we told her she was soo furious. She immediately kicked my boyfriend
out and called the doctor to terminate the pregnancy. I refused to do it
and my boyfriend did all he could to try to change my mother's mind but nothing
worked. I cried myself to sleep every night until THAT day came. It was August
16th when my mom dragged me to the clinic. I caused a huge commotion because
I didn’t want to do it. I cried. I yelled. I did everything but it was all
gonna be done. My mom had the nerve to call my boyfriend and tell him to
come. He did of course and he calmed me down and told me it was gonna be
okay. He held my hand all through the procedure. It hurt so bad. I felt everything.
My boyfriend and I cried when it was all over. Ever since that day our lives
changed tremendously. We see things differently. I can’t even look at a baby
or a pregnant woman without crying. Still to this day I cry at night and
pray to God to take care of my baby. I knew I was young -- way to young --
but we could have made it one way or another. Now we will never know. I regret
it every single day, and if I could go back to change it...I would...I had
never experienced something so horrible and hurtful. I can't believe what
I had done and I would do anything to change it. I advise all teenage girls
that are considering abortion to at least try to come up with another solution
- like adoption. but I’m not here to tell you what to do. I’m trying to
help, I don’t want to see another person hurt the way I do – every day and
These stories of abuse are received often enough that they warranted a full section on Teenbreaks. They are particularly disturbing because it is supposed to be a woman’s “RIGHT to choose”. Coerced abortions come from many directions, some quite subtle, some circumstantial but they do not really allow a girl/woman/mother to make a “choice”.
We can make information available to youth but in the end we must change
the culture to one that values human life. To do this we must be in the public
arena - making our case and proving that we care about each mother regardless
of age or race or whatever. Teenbreaks give us one very good vehicle - TV
Teneice / Illinois / Age 13-15 - The day I went to have the abortion,
I was so afraid, each step of the process I was thinking… is it too late
to turn back and say no….but the next thing I knew I woke up after the
abortion going crazy. I knew right then and there that I hadn’t wanted
to do it. It hurt me so bad. I still can't get over it. The biggest thing
I'll ever regret. My advice to other girls is be strong about your own
decisions because you can't take them back.
Mariah/Illinois/16-19 – Hi. I’m Mariah and I am 16 years old and expecting my daughter in about four months. But before all that I was a teenage wreck. I went through six years of sexual abuse by my older brother, which led to depression and cutting. I was a cutter for over half my life, but now I am recovering. I made a lot of mistakes and ended up behind in school. But since I discovered I was pregnant, that has all changed. I found a teen parent service program, and now I am graduating high school a year early! And its all thanks to people like the founders of this webpage – people
who care enough to listen and make a difference! Thanks.
Kim / Illinois / Age 14 - found herself pregnant by her 17 year old boyfriend.
She ended up being pressured to have an abortion. She writes… my
mom told me that after I had the abortion everything would be fine…when I woke up
after the surgery, I screamed! I couldn’t believe I had killed my son. It’s
been over a year and there is not a day that goes by without thinking about
him. I’ll never get over it….
To counter this pro-choice mindset, and to let mothers like Kim know of the services of pro-life alternative agencies, The Caring Outreach went on television for the first time in the year 2000 with 292 spots specifically designed to encourage new moms to call for help if it was needed. We learned that year that only ABC refused to accept pro-life ads. The message we selected informed women of services available and witnessed to the care and compassion pro-lifers have for both babies and their mothers.
One young man named Wesley tried desperately to encourage his
girlfriend to keep their baby. He writes…. one evening she told me in two simple words, “it’s gone.”…. Despite the
fact that I would have raised the child with or without her, I couldn’t choose
to be a father… the one thing that I thought would become the greatest
joy in life, has become the greatest pain. It hurts more than words could
ever describe… and I felt helpless--because there was nothing I could do
It is a fact that fathers have been disenfranchised from the
abortion decision. Many have been caught in the same tragic dilemma, unable
to protect their own sons and daughters when the mothers chose to abort.
Heather / Illinois / Age 18
- got involved with an older man and did not find it difficult to have her
first abortion at 14. So she had three more before she was 18. Then she got
pregnant again and looked up abortion on the Internet. Amazed at the size
of the baby and pictures of abortions she now realizes that what she did
to her babies was in her words - awful. She writes... all the things I
didn't feel then came back times ten. If I had seen pictures and knew this
years ago, I would not have done it...
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